Happy Marriage

Ok, so I'm going to be coming up to 13 years of marriage in March of 2009. Which, really I'm not sure if it really counts as 13 since my Hubby and I have been separated probably about a year and a half in those entire 13 years. We've always had a rocky marriage.

But, we were talking the other day and wondering..how do we know that we were "meant" to be together? I mean, I can tell you honestly that we got pregnant first, and not even a month and a half later, we were hitched. Not quite the romantic on one knee kinda proposal either. More like Daddy's got a shotgun in the trunk kinda thing. LOL.

So, back to the "meaning" of the marriage. Obviously it wasn't a picture perfect union. So, now we're back to square one wondering how we got so far along in this marriage in order to start wondering about whether we're meant to be together or not. Can you follow? I mean, we get along. I know I love him. The kids are happy. Only thing is, there really isn't much my Hubby and I have in common. When you're young and stupid it seems everybody is interested in the same kinda things. What else is there but partying, scoping out the opposite sex and hanging out with your friends?

Now that we're older, we're starting to draw blanks. Conversations lack because we really have nothing to talk about. So, I start falling asleep on our car rides home and I'm in bed every night by no later than 10:30. We don't date much, but when we do we usually get into deep conversations about our past and how much we Don't have in common.

Don't get me wrong though. We have awesome "family" outings. So, whenever it involves the kids, it's great! We have a blast. But, when the kids aren't with us, we are just blah. It almost makes me wonder what kind of relationship we're going to have when the kids are...older...and....out of..the...hoouusse. Yikes. I just don't know.

I was having a conversation with my friend about it earlier. She shot out that 70% of marriages today are couples exactly like ours. Not knowing whether or not they were "meant" to be together. Most of them are just living their lives and going through the motions. I don't want to just go through the motions anymore. Maybe there's something out there that we could do to improve our relationship. I don't want to hit the 15yr mark feeling like I'm beating a dead horse...you know?